Monday, November 23, 2009

Clients, they're everywhere!

Lately, I've been wryly examining what pre-doula Erinn conceptions about doula life compared to what present-day Erinn has experienced. My top three unforeseen things about being a doula are:

1. Women want to tell me their birth stories. Admittedly, I regularly solicit birth stories during conversations - but even when someone else initiates the discussion, the mom telling the story always ends up looking at me, whether she knows I'm a doula or not.

2. I've become a conduit for information to everyone. A few weeks ago, a friend whom I was helping pick out a new computer laughed at me and said, "I feel like you're doula'ing me through this purchase."

3. The way I offer my opinion in any situation has changed dramatically. I used to just speak my mind; now I choose my words extra carefully, and always make sure I round-out the discussion by pointing out opportunities for individual choices and bringing up variances that might not have been mentioned.

I have two more potential clients, one couple from Kim's Bradley class and another who was referred to me by a local doula, Melissa. Both are planning on a birth center birth with CPM's, which is exciting - I haven't done a birth over there before, so it should be very cool, and very educational. My Bradley couple are still in the middle of pregnancy, and I don't expect them to commit for a couple of months, but the referral mom I spoke with tonight said, excitedly, "I can see we're going to be a great match," after our phone conversation today, which made me think she was ready to sign the contract!

I'm constantly amazed at the way being a doula has changed me, and how it's made my life so exciting. It truly is a gift to me when mothers and families allow me to serve them during pregnancy and labor.

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